Who Does She Think She Is? She; Has Done The Work

12 Nov Who Does She Think She Is? She; Has Done The Work

A couple of months ago I had a visit from a friend of mine. She rode into town with another woman Miss Linda, who I hadn’t met.

Miss Linda looked confident and fabulous on her motorcycle. As did my friend.

After parking up Miss Linda removed her helmet revealing a lovely smile and funky short hair style. She stepped forward, enthusiastically wrapping me up in a big warm hug.

She was delightful. I liked her instantly.

Now, I don’t want to label a woman for her appearance, but for the point of this story, I am going to. Miss Linda is very attractive. She is slim and absolutely rocks her biker gear.

A little later over coffee, my new friend became emotional. Through the tears she told us she was feeling excluded by another group of women.

Really. Why I asked? Wondering how this lovely friendly lady could not be made to feel welcomed anywhere.

“Who does she think she is”, came the response?

Arhhhhh right! That boring old expression.

There is a whole bunch of insecurities wrapped up in that statement.

It is usually directed at a woman who is confident enough to speak her mind. Dare I say it,  a woman who is attractive, slim, fit and strong. A woman with a fabulous sense of style.

A woman who goes against the ‘norm’ and does what she wants – not caring about what others think. Rides a motorcycle. Continues to live a life of her own despite being in a relationship. Applies for a new challenging job, enrolls in university as a mature aged student. Or a woman who backs herself and starts a business.

Recently I complimented a good friend of mine, Miss Simone on her latest gym pose. For a laugh I also said “I could be your before photo”.

She laughed before responding, “I work really hard Miss Heather”!

Boom! And that is it. Miss Simone ‘does the work’!

She is a regular at the gym doing weight training. She is disciplined with her food. Miss Simone works damn hard to maintain her fit and strong physique.

Do you? I know I don’t.

So, instead of leaning into someone, cupping your hand and whispering “who does she think she is”? ‘Do the work’!

Do the work on self-acceptance. Do the work on becoming more confident and braver. Do the work on your health and fitness. Do the work on furthering your qualifications, resumes and job applications.

Do the work and get your motorcycle license. Do the work and become a ‘mover and shaker’. Do the work and stop using your partner as an excuse.

Do the work and find a new one – a partner that is, if you are not in a supportive relationship. Do the work and learn to be on your own.

And gentlemen, while this story may focus on women, however, the same principles apply to you also.  I have heard the comment many times  “who does he think he is”.

The only reason you are stuck in a cesspool of negativity, throwing crap at some else is because you are ‘not doing the work’. Harsh maybe, but true.

Let us all begin by taking responsibility for where we are in own lives and ‘do the work’ we need to do, on ourselves, so we become kinder, accepting and inclusive of others 🙂x